Sometimes we have the happiest of experiences in our lives and they are times that we don’t ever want to forget. Sometimes, we have very difficult times in our lives and it’s not that we necessarily want to forget them; it’s that we don’t want to carry the negative emotions that these memories leave with us. These feelings can leave us with a sense of anger, frustration, guilt, grief and many other emotions that are specific to the person experiencing them.
At what point should we consider it too late to do anything about it? Should we ever just live with it and ignore how we feel just because a number of years have passed? The simple answer is that it is never too late to deal with something that is sitting under the surface, waiting for something to trigger the memory, the feelings and the negative emotions that are attached to that memory.
In terms of the brain, a memory is only ever 1/10 of a second old. When we feel emotional pain relating to the past, we are in fact experiencing emotions being triggered by the recollection of events. We don’t store emotions in that sense, what we do is remember what happened and because the memory of the event stimulates the same response as the original event itself, we therefore continue to feel the same as we did, or sometimes worse because of the simple fact that instead of facing it or dealing with it, we push it down inside, thinking that if we don’t think about it, it will go away, disappear, simply vanish. The sad truth of the matter is that it doesn’t. Many people manage successfully for some time but often, it makes itself known as someone says something to you that triggers the memory, you see something on TV or you find something one day relating to the event and the whole thing just comes flooding back.
It’s never too late to deal with something that is there, under the surface, waiting to be acknowledged, accepted, released.
It’s easy to look back and think that you should have done it years ago. It doesn’t matter, the important thing is that you deal with it now. You have the future to look forward to and it’s better to look forward to the future with the lightness that comes with release.